Why You Should Not Be A WAHM

 

WAHM

 

 

Yay, so you decide to take the plunge and be a WAHM (work at home mom).  Somehow you are asking yourself why do I have WOHM (work outside home mom) issues. Well join the club because that is something that all WAHM go through. I know, I know you were told the glamorous story of being a WAHM. How you will be able to spend more time at home with your kids, or no child care expenses or my favorite you don’t have to worry about what to wear to work. I am going to share why you should not be a WAHM.

Well I hate to be the barrel of bad news but all of that is semi a lie. Hey, hey, hey don’t shoot the messenger. I just want you to have the pretty and the ugly side of being a WAHM. Don’t get me wrong I do LOVE working from home.   Still there is some perks and yes some disadvantages. There are some days I wish I can go to an office building.  Then there are some days I wonder how some mom do the office environment.  Before you jump in head first in to the WAHM let me give you brief low down of what you should and should not expect being a WAHM.

 Perks

  1. NO COMUTE (Hey that alone is the best part)
  2. Yes, that is a great not have to worry about dealing with the morning or afternoon traffic plus you save a lot of money in gas and maintenance on your vehicle
  3.  You can work from the comfort of your own home.
  4. Being around familiar surroundings and not worrying about clicks in the office but it is you and your fuzzy slippers.
  5. Depending the job you are able to set your own schedule.
  6. There is a reason I say that. If you are starting your own business and working with a company that allow you flexible schedule that statement is true. But some virtual call center company has set schedule that you must adhere to.
  7. No company dress code.
  8. If you like to have casual day at the office everyday then you can because you are a WAHM.
  9. Don’t have to go out to eat for lunch. This has to be one of my favorite reasons from working from home. Lunch every week was costing me about $40. That is a lot of money so to have the pleasure of walking into my kitchen and fix my lunch at home is so awesome.

 

Not So Happy Perks

  1.  Depending on the job you still may have to put your kids in daycare. The reason I say that because if you work in a virtual call center, then your office has to be quiet and free from distraction. That is really hard to do with small children in the house. So there will be some cost at being a WAHM such as daycare. Now if the company you work for has a 24 hours virtual call center then you can work the late shift while your beautiful angels are asleep.
  2. Some  jobs (such virtual customer service) are not very flexible with schedule.Some virtual call centers have a strict policy on attendance. One job that I had in a virtual call center required that I follow my schedule very strictly. If for any reason if I was late then that was an automatic write up
  3. Distraction from family.As much I hate to say this but there will be distraction from your family. Your child will want some water as some as you start working. Or your husband can’t find the remote control to the television. It will happen so you have been warned.
  4. Working alone (especially an issue if you are not an introvert)Being a WAHM is not for the social butterfly. You will be alone many, many days. I learn how to cope with it but don’t get me wrong I do have my moments when I get tired of looking at these white walls and I have to get far, far away from this house. But if you really want to do this then you can definitely make it work but if you know you need the interaction with co-works around you then WAHM is not for you
  5. Self-motivation.  It takes a lot of self-motivation to be a WAHM. When working a 9 to 5 you all already know what is required from you because your employer has given you the rules of the company and someone is there watching you to make sure you are doing your job. Being a WAHM does allow you the freedom of not having your boss breathing down your neck but you have to be motivated enough to go to work every day to earn a living.

I hope this encourage your decision of being a WAHM or stay being a WOHM. Whatever you decide enjoy doing it.

 

Frugal Summer Activities For Kids

Frugal Summer Activities

 

 

 

Summer is here and the three dreaded word that every parent hate to hear their children say, “Mom, I am bored”. If you are like me you are trying to save money and not spend a whole lot of time and energy on finding activities for your kids to do.   I am here to give you tips and ideas on how to find frugal but fun summer activities for kids.

 

Frugal Summer Activities For Kids

1. Check Your Local Library

The library is the perfect source to have fun activities for your kids. I know at my local library they have reading program throughout the summer. This is great because it ensure that my kids keep reading while school is out. At some library they have different activities throughout the week and weekend. Guess what it is absolutely free.

2. Local Community Activities

Check your local newspaper or city Facebook can offer free summer activities for kids. My local city  have movie on the lawn one Friday a month and it’s free. We bring our lawn chair and blanket and pack a dinner and watch movie on the lawn. Sign up for your city Facebook page to get free family activities. Some city Facebook will announce different organization that are having free or inexpensive family activities.

 

3. Arts and Craft

Doing arts and craft is one of my favorite activities. I am always on Pinterest finding ways to make slime or homemade bubbles. I have a craft bag that my kids can go in to make their own craft project. These simple products can be bought at our local dollar store or bough in bulk online at Amazon. Some of the amazing craft my kids enjoy making is:

Slime: Check out Sugar, Spice and Glitter homemade fluffy slime recipe here

Homemade Bubbles: Check out Artful Parent homemade bubbles recipe here

Homemade Moon Sand: Check out Lesson Learnt Journal moon sand recipe here

This is some just a few art and craft I do with my kids.

4. Movies

During the summer months my local movie theater offer discount movies. The movies are in the afternoon and they are previous movies that came out in the past. The cost is usually about $6.00 and it include the movie, popcorn and drink. This is a great way to have family time and staying cool at the same time.

 

5. Water Day

This is one of my kids favorite. Water Day consist of inexpensive pool or sprinkler and my kids go to town. It get really hot in Georgia and this is a great way for my kids to school off. Plus this wear them out. I got my pool from Wal-Mart and we is been in good use year after year.

 

I love the summer months it is a great way to spend time with you kids. If you are budget savvy it is easy to find frugal ways to have great summer activities with your kids.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Start A Blog With SiteGround

This is the best time to start a blog.

Blogging has become a way for moms and dads to stay home an earn a decent income.

There are thousand of courses on how to earn money as blogger. With Facebook groups to Pinterest board there are topic specifically on how to grow your blog audience.

There is no better time start a blog and jump in the world of blogging. With a good web hosting site (I prefer SiteGround) you can start a blog within minutes.

What Do You Want To Blog About.

What is your blog niche? Is there something that you have knowledge of that you think that would be beneficial to someone else? This is very important because you want to make sure you have the right audience for you blog.

For example, if you love to make your own pattern for sewing. Then that is a niche that you can reach, There is nothing wrong have a different topic on your blog but you main focus show be about sewing,

Another reason to have a niche is because you can be the number one resource for your reader, There are certain bloggers I visit frequently when I need something answered, such as blog growth to easy family recipe That should be your goal. That your niche or blog is the resource that your reader come to about any niche you are providing.

 

Monetizing Your Blog.

Most bloggers start a blog to make extra money or turn their blog into a full time income. When choosing your niche you want to make sure it a niche that you can monetize. There are several ways to make money with your blog, Some ways to make money on your blog is sponsored post, affiliate marketing, sell space on their blog for advertiser, offer services or sell your own product.

The important thing  to remember is that your niche should be able to give you the opportunity to earn an income.

Choosing SiteGround As Your Web Hosting Site

When I started back blogging I knew I wanted a reliable and inexpensive web hosting site. I done my research and with SiteGround I knew I was getting a great deal on great service

Web Hosting SiteGroundThere Uptime is 99.99%

I started with Bluehost but I constantly kept getting reports that my site was down. As a blogger that is never good. With SiteGround I have never had that issue. They have a reliable uptime and if my site does go down it is only down for a couple of seconds. SiteGround has uptime of 99.99% which is great for blog

 

 

 

 

 

SiteGround Beginner Web Hosting 24/7 Service

SiteGround has 24/7 service. Either by chat or by phone. That is good if you are not computer savvy. Plus, if you are new blogger you want a web hosting site company that can help anytime you need them. I am a night hawk and I do majority of blogging at night. If something happen to my website I like the idea of reaching out to my web hosting company in the middle of the night instead of waiting the next day to speak with someone.

 

 

 

Choose A Package

SiteGround Packages

SiteGround has three package to choose from: Start Up, Grow Big, and Go Geek. I recommend as a new blogger to get the Start up. Here is why. As a new blogger you are still fine tuning your blog and trying to reach your audience. If blogging is something you are starting out as part time and want to grow full time later then getting the Start UP will be great for your budget. The Start UP it is only $3.95 per month which is great for anyone budget. Plus if you purchase one of the larger packages and realize blogging is not your thing at least you have not spent a whole lot of money.

Choose A Domain Name

Domain Name

If you have not chose a domain name you can choose one right on SiteGround, I recommend to get a .com domain name because it is recognizable and more common. A lot of people stress about having a blog name match that match their niche. I on the other head rather you not stress that much about it. My blog name is Blissful Corner but it is about mompreneurs and home management. Let me tell you I have change my blog name so many time trying to find something for my niche but I did not like it. My rule of thumb if you have a blog that has good SEO and good content the blog name is something you should not stress about.

 

Set Up Your Account

Fill out your account and client information

SiteGround

Then, you will fill out your payment and purchase information (to get a bigger discount select 12 month period or longer to get the 60% discount for the whole year

 

At end you will find a couple Extra Services you can keep or opt out. If you don’t need them don’t buy them and save some extra money.

 

 

 

Finally you need to agree to the terms and agreement to SitGround that is under the tile and your total amount will be display and click Pay Now.

Tadaaa! You have you set up your hosting blog.

Wasn’t painful at all, right? Next just install WordPress and start getting creative with the style and design of your new blog.

I can’t wait to hear about your blog.

When you set up you blog let me know I would love to follow you. Leave me your blog link under the comment section. You can also find me on Facebook and Instagram.

 

 

 

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Tips For Blogging Burnout

Blogging, Blogging TIps

 

When I decided that I wanted to start blogging I did not know how easily it can burn you out. I had blogging burnout with my blog due to not taking time for myself. I was burnout because I did not dedicate time for my blog or my family. Let me share with you some of the steps I have learn to prevent blogging burnout.

I have been incognito for awhile and I have a good reason. I had to rewind and sit back and think if I wanted the responsibility of running a blog. Plus working full-time, be a mom and a wife.  Running a blog takes a lot of work. It can get overwhelming and it requires a lot time to be honest that I did not want to give.

I saw myself so caught up in my blog that I missed out on a lot of things. Such as, not spending time with my kids and family.  I was trying so hard to have my blog to be my full-time income within 3 month.  I simply just got burn out and uninterested in doing my blog. It was  no longer fun but it was more like a chore. That is not the reason why I wanted to blog. I had to sit down and decide if this is something I wanted to do. Am I willing to put out good quality content but still had time for myself and my family along the way.

The first thing I learning is that blogging should be something I enjoy.

During my brief hiatus from blogging I learn a lot about myself and my goal for blogging.

  • The first thing I learning is that blogging should be something I enjoy. Blogging should not be a race to be rich within 2 or 3 months. I had to change my whole mind frame. Realize that outside of my blogging I am still a wife and mother. I am learning to pace myself. Such as having one good blog post a week but it is rich in content and it cause me to have returning readers.

 

  • The second thing I learn is to really write rich and thorough content that is engaging and that will allow me to have returning readers. Not to throw something out there and call it a day and hope for the best. Looking at some of my previous post I realize that my work was not the best but I am working on it to be a better.

 

  • Not to go from class to class or workshop to workshop trying to get quick result with my blog. Take one class or two and work that class until the end. Not blame the teacher of the class  for my blog not growing or being successful. Especially if I did not do the steps or the blueprint to have a successful blog.

Blocking Out Blog Time

This is something new for me. I never had a time set up where I just work on my blog. I just worked on my blog at a whim. Doing that cause miss not to blog on several days, weeks and months. I decide to do block time for my blog to make sure that I am doing something on my blog. If that is writing a post, posting on Pinterest or Facebook. Or posting in my Tailwind groups.

 

Tips To Prevent Blogging Burnout

  • Always make sure to take time out for yourself and your family. This is a hard lesson I had to learn. Self-Care for yourself is so important. I read  Stephanie post “Why Self-Care for Bloggers is Important” and she talk about the importance of self-care for a blogger you can read her here.
  • Blogging is not only can be a business but it has to be something you enjoy and be passionate about. Trust me starting a blog can be overwhelming but if you loose your passion for blogging or if blogging has become a chore. It is time to sit back and re-evaluate your reason for blogging.
  • Block out blogging time. This is so important. Blogging should not be a hobby if you are trying to make it a business. Blocking out time and dedicating it to your blog is a good way to ensure that your blog is getting the attention it needs.

Hopefully my mistake and tips will help you prevent blogging burnout. Help you on your journey has a blogger.

 

Until Then My Friend

Take Care

Cookie.

 

 

Simple Tips To Shopping At ALDI

Shopping

 

With the holidays approaching trying to save money and time while shopping is essential. I am going to give you some tips on how to have a smooth and easy shopping trip to ALDI.

 

The Essential For Shopping

If you never shopped at ALDI before then you are going to need a couple of things.

Bring your own bag.

ALDI does not offer free bags to bag up your items and you have to bring your own bag. I have gotten bags from the Dollar Tree and different places. You want to get a good, large, quality bag for your items because you will have to bag up your own things and take them to the car.

A Quarter

ALDI shopping cart or buggies (that is what us country folks call it) have a quarter system. In order to get a shopping cart, you have to insert a quarter. Once you are doing you bring the shopping cart back to the rack and you get your shopping cart back.

Open Mind

ALDI is not your normal grocery store. You will not see shelf stock full of products but you will see a box full of products. Which make it great because it helps save money and it is another way to get a box to put your products in.

 

The Buying Guide

At ALDI you will not get a lot of name brand products. However, you will get a lot of ALDI brand products which is just as good as the name brand.

ALDI is known for the gluten-free line and Organic Food. The ALDI Simply Natural organic line is very good and reasonable price. The live gFree gluten line is popular for their gluten shoppers and it is really good.

ALDI is the cheapest when it comes to milk and eggs. I love that because our family goes through a lot of milk and eggs.

Save Money

I have actually spent $100 dollars at ALDI and have fed my family of 4 for two weeks. If I am creative I can stretch it to three weeks. Check out Queen of Free website here and she has some great meal plans to save money while shopping at ALDI

 

I hope this helps you with your Holiday shopping at ALDI. I would love to hear how you save money during this Holiday Season.

 

Thanks for Stopping By

XOXO


5 Favorite Cookies Recipes

Cookies

 

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I can not tell you how much I love cookies. I love, love, love cookies. Maybe that is why my nickname is Cookie because I love cookies so much. There are those days that I just have to have a good homemade cookie. Don’t get me wrong I will buy store bought cookies but something about homemade cookies are just the best. So what I decided to do is list some of my favorite cookies that me and my family have enjoyed.

Some of the things I used to make these delicious cookies:

The Basic Tools

Cookie Sheet

Mixing Bowl

Measuring Cups

Glass Measuring Cups

 

The Cookies

Blueberry Cheesecake:

I know the name alone sound crazy but let me tell you these are some good cookies. This recipe is so different that I have made these cookies quite a few times. My husband is really not the chocolate chip cookie can of guy so he absolutely love these cookies. Even though the name may fool you in thinking that it will take all day to make this cookies but you will be pleasantly surprise as how easy these cookies are to make.

Peanut Butter Oatmeal Chocolate  (flourless, no butter)

The only reason I tried these cookies because they have two of mu favorite ingredients peanut butter and chocolate. I am not a gluten free person but I am here to tell you that these are some of the moist and yummiest cookies I have ever eaten that does not use flour or butter. I hate oatmeal, I really do but these cookies right here had me eating them straight from the pan while still hot. Yeah they are that good. So trust me on this one when I tell you that these cookies right here ROCK.

The Best Chocolate Chip Cookie Recipe Ever

Okay I did this recipe because I just could not believe he did not use white sugar for this chocolate chip cookies recipe. Yep you read it right NO WHITE SUGAR. But, baby let me tell you these cookies right here, honey they will not make it to the cookie jar. I was pregnant when I made these cookies and let me tell you that I ate a whole pan of cookies by myself. Nope I am not embarrassed to say that. The moist factor and the whole texture of these cookies is off the meter. I promise you that once you try these cookies your whole chocolate chip cookie baking experience will never be the same. Cookies

A Twist on Traditional Cookies

Strawberry Chocolate Chip Cookies

Can you see the chocolate chip theme going here. Well any who, I made these cookies for my daughter class for Valentine Day and I have never seen so many little kids asking me for more of these cookies. Heck, I haven’t seen so many adults asking me for more of these cookies. What I love about this recipe that it is super duper easy and yes they are moist. I love a recipe where the prep time is not long because I am going to be honest with you if it take me more than 15 minutes to get the ingredient together I can guarantee you something is going to get left out. So that alone should make you want to try this recipe.

Banana Bread

Okay trust me when I say these are so GOOD. I don’t like spending time making banana bread so I made banana cookie.  OMG I can not describe how good these cookies are. Okay, I lied, I can. these cookies right here has everything that you will find in banana bread but it is in a cookie form. Even though this recipe does not call for nuts I use about 1/2 cup of chop walnuts in my and trust me when I tell you it is yummo. These cookies did not have chance coming out of the oven. If you like me and you like your cookies a little warm with some cold milk well these cookies here hold up well in a nice cup of milk. TRUST ME when I say you have to try these cookies Just because they are different from your normal cookies.

Conclusion.

Well there you have it my list of some of my favorite cookies. Trust me my cookies list does not stop there but I know you don’t want to keep reading about my cookie craving. I think better go because I really want some cookies right now.

Well Until Then Friends

Tootle Lou

Cookie

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Simple Tips To Managing Your Home

 

Managing

When I became a work from mom no one told me the task and responsibility that came with it..  First of all, I am not a list writing, meal planning and schedule writing kind of girl. Having to do some type of home of management totally shocked me. There was no class on how to be a work from home mom.  Through A LOT of  trial and error I am still learning how to manage my household. So I know how it feel for the new mom that feel overwhelmed with the never ending chores and wondering how in the world did time fly and it time to pick up the kids from school and you are still not dress. So I have complied a list of simple tips to managing your home for the working mom.

Keep Home Managing Simple

When it come to home management it best to keep it simple. Don’t fuss with the minor things such as dusting the floor boards or washing the walls. Your goal should be to get you home to look presentable for guest and comfortable for your family.

Time Management. I am not a morning person. Managing my time is something I am still working on. The only reason why I get up in the morning is because I have to take my kids to school and go to work.  So I have learn to go ahead and plan my day. One habit I had to break is distraction.  I would start a project and not finish it.  What I do now is I start a project and I finish until the end. I set up a timer for 30 minutes to complete my task.

Chore Days. I had to learn this pretty quick after I had my last child. I was notorious in taking five days to wash clothes or all day Saturday event to clean out the refrigerator. My cure for this nasty habit was to set up chore days. My chore days are pretty simple compare to the normal chore days some people have. Monday and Tuesday I wash clothes. Tuesday and Wednesday I clean the bathroom, wash and fold the remain clothes and sort out old mail. Wednesday is cleaning mirrors, windows and knick-knack. Thursday is mopping the floors and vacuuming. Fridays is cleaning out the refrigerator (if needed) and shopping. Allow some flexibility in you chore days just in case something comes up. If something come ups you can move your chore that particular day to the next day.

Plan Ahead

Put on Clothes. I know his sound crazy but it is true. Being a work from home mom I put on clothes everyday. I get dress as if I have somewhere to go. Plus it motivate  me to move and to get things done.  When I get my kids dressed and ready for school I go ahead and get myself dressed. This allow me to feel like I have accomplished something and I not in the house all days in my night clothes.

Plan the night ahead. Like I said early I am not a morning person so anything that will help me out the door a little more easier I will do it. So I plan a lot of my stuff the night before. I lay out mini me and big man clothes, pack book bags, sign papers,etc. I do everything the nigh before that I know will suck up my time  in the morning. This help me to make sure that I have a smooth morning for me and my kids.

Expect The Unexpected

5) Expect Hick-Ups. I also made room to expect hick-ups. Life is not perfect so I know there are going to be days that I may not get to one of my chores because that is life. Or I may forget to pack something the night before because I am spending some quality time with my kids. If that happens just go with the flow and start over.

I hope this home managing tips help out the working mom.  There are still somethings I am still learning and so will you but enjoy your time being with your kids because trust me you will never get back those moments with your kids again.  If your have something you would like to add let me know.

 

Until My Friend

Is A Niche Blog Beneficial for Today’s Blogger?

I have had a lot of people ask me which type of blog is better broad or niche blog. I often I tell them it depends on what you are looking for. It depends on what type of audience you are trying to reach.  What type of topic you are willing to discuss?

When I first started blogging I was told to niche down. So I started a blog about healthy living. To be honest, that was one of the hardest blog to write because I wanted to write about other things. I did not because I want to stick with my niche but I felt so boxed in.

I stopped blogging and then change by blogging platform from niche to broad. Which was not a bad thing but my blogging topic was all over place. My blog was not focus and it was not reaching my audience.

What type of blog is best?

 

Well, it depend who you are trying to reach. For example there are some blog sites that talk about couponing and discounts. That type of niche work for them because they have two things on their blog that is about couponing and finding discounts. Their are niche within two categories that is a popular topic.

Then there are other blogs that are so Niche down that finding a topic or keeping the blog engaging can be difficult. I love the example that Carly give on Mommy of Purpose on her blog post: “How narrow does your niche have to be to have a successful blog?”. She gave the example of a stamp collector. The stamp collector can be an expert in the field but email list will grow very slowly.

Sometimes having a Niche blog can cause you to lose out on potential readers. When niche(ing) down on a blog you are stuck with that certain niche and to be honest it is hard trying to write about the same thing over and over again.

Writing a broad blog gives you the opportunity to write to multiple audiences. You are not defining to one category type. For example mom blogs has become very popular. That may seem too broad but the topic on a mom blog is endless. On a mom blog you can blog about saving money, child rearing and marriage, which reach a multiple group of people. With a niche blog you are reaching out to a small group of people who have same interest.

The purpose of a blog is to reach people.

That is why I caution about choosing one specific niche because you may not reach a lot of people. When it comes to gaining sponsors or affiliates the first question a sponsor asks is, “what is your niche?”  That does not mean you have to give a niche down version of your blog but a general area of who your blog reach. There are some blog that has a broad feel but have a niche market which can help can gain sponsors and affiliate.

Another thing to think about with a niche blog is “who is your market?”

In my case, my market is for working moms, age range 30+, who is trying to save money.  If you can get an idea on who you are trying to reach, your market is you niche. Let’s go back to the stamp collector. Her market is simply for stamp collector over the age of 40. That is a smaller market. Now if we look at someone who market is for stamp collector, over the age of 40,   and how to sell on eBay or Amazon that gives the blogger a bigger market.

 

The way I look at a niche is based on the market I am trying to reach. When looking at a niche base your niche off of you market not your blog type. When you can base you niche off of your market you can expand your blog to more readers. If you blog is about lifestyle you can market to different ages, gender, income etc. for your blog. Your brand is your umbrella and your market is the individual small niches or market you are reaching.

Remember when trying to get a niche base your niche off of your market. That will give you a broader topic to write about and give you a bigger audience.

Well Until Then My Friend

Tootle Lou

Cookie

The Benefits of A Quality Post

The Benefits of A Quality Post.

Returning back to blogging has brought some challenges for me. Trying to crank out 2 blogs a week and being had and very trying. Till recently when I read a blog post from Taylor Stanford at https://www.taylorstanford.com. As I look over her blog she was not pushing out 2 or 3 blog post a week put she was doing maybe 1 or 2 blog a week. Yet,  her blog post was fill with quality information.

That is the benefits of a quality post. You don’t need 3 post a week to get viewers but having a quality will give you returning viewers.

That was an eye opener for me. I was about to give up on blogging AGAIN. I was not able to put out my 2 blog post like I like. That made me feel like a failure. To be honest that what stop me from blogging before.  I set up myself up for this high standard about blogging but did not take in consideration that I have a life. A very active life. I am blogger, mother of two small children, wife and I work full-time. By the time my day end I am exhausted and tired.

Reevaluating my blog.

So I had to sit down and reevaluate myself and blog and what I wanted out of my blog. What I want is an engaging and active blog that I ENJOY doing. Instead of a blog that I sweating bullets because I don’t have a certain amount of blog post.

My ultimate goal is to use my blog as a full time income. I know that it will take time and I have to pace myself. Where I am not posting two blogs a week, I am updating my Pinterest Site, working on the cosmetic of my blog and taking classes on how to be a better blogger.To me, that is part of my blogging dream.

I have read several; blog post about how to do a blog post within an hour but honestly I feel like I am gypping myself and you the reader. I rather for my blog post to take me a 3 to 4 days to develop but it be a quality post. Then 1 hour and it be a crappy post.

By me taking the route of producing a quality post it allow me to give you the reader a post that you can come back to reference and to learn something. IF that means that my Quality post take a little longer for me to produce then so be it.

I hope this inspire you to write more quality to post. It should be our goal to have more engaging reader.

 

Thanks for Stopping by

Cookie

Why Did I Marry This Man?

Why Did I Marry This MANCongratulation you are married. You finally turned over in your bed and asked yourself.

“Why did I marry this Man?”

The fantasy that you had about your marriage came crashing down because you just had your first argument.  Its your first year in your marriage and you are questioning if you made the right decision.   Now you are questioning yourself if you married the right man. TRUST me when I tell you have and you are not the long ranger.

I remember when my husband and I had our first big argument. We was just three months into our marriage and I was already ready to throw in the towel.  I had packed up me and my daughter things and I was moving back in with my parents. Because in my mind I thought that in my first year of married we will never have any arguments and we would have the perfect married like they show on television but I quickly realized that is television and not real life.

What you have to remember is that married take a lot of work. Let me say that again, MARRIED TAKE A LOT OF WORK.  As women, sometimes  we get caught up in the wedding and we sometimes forget that the wedding is for one day and married is for a lifetime.

Trust me there was a time and still is when I tell myself that I cannot do this anymore and I want to walk away but I realized that every bump that I have in my married is a testimony that I can share to a new couple. I tell myself that divorce is not an option for petty stuff that we can work on.

Plus, I had to learn to not compare my married to someone else married. What may work for their married may not work for my married. I am what you call a  free spirit. Truthfully, my mind wonders from one project to another. Now my husband,  is more of the logical thinker in out marriage.  He thinks about a project before he start. If I compared my married to someone else marriage it would not work for us.  I believe in getting marriage advice from someone who has been married for a long time. I just don’t cross the line of comparing their marriage to mines.

 

Why Did I get Married

Another thing I want to point out is to always, always pray for your married. I have learned the power of prayer. My daily prayers is my married. I pray that my married is strong. As a wife I pray that me and my husband are faithful to each other.  With my prayers I also pray for grown and unity in my marriage.

I am also learning that what happen in my marriage stays within my marriage. I have my parents to thank for that. My mom and dad could have a drag out fight but no one outside the house would ever now it. Watching them be that way has made me that way. I never tell anyone when Marion and I have an argument because to me people feed off of negativity and I do not want anyone to look at marriage as a bad thing. Second, when I tell my business outside of my marriage then  that open the door for the enemy to come in and destroy my marriage with other people views instead of me going to the Lord in prayer.

I also never talk negative about my husband. I know my husband has flaws but I also have flaws. So it likes the pot calling the kettle black. I am learning to pray on myself when it comes to things that my husband may say or do that I don’t like instead of me sharing my frustration with other people.

Lastly but never least always, always, always keep Christ in your married. Trust me you want to keep Christ in your married because it will make your married so much better.

There will be some mornings you will ask you self why you married this man and you can tell yourself you did it because this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.