Congratulation on your new marriage. You finally turned over in your bed and asked yourself.
“Why did I marry this Man?”
The fantasy that you had about your marriage came crashing down because you just had your first argument. Its your first year in your marriage and you are questioning if you made the right decision. Now you are questioning yourself if you married the right man. TRUST me when I tell you have and you are not the long ranger.
What you have to remember is that married take a lot of work
I remember when my husband and I had our first big argument. We was just three months into our marriage and I was already ready to throw in the towel. I had packed up me and my daughter things and I was moving back in with my parents. Because in my mind I thought that in my first year of married we will never have any arguments and we would have the perfect married like they show on television but I quickly realized that is television and not real life.
Your wedding is for one day married is for a lifetime.
What you have to remember is that married take a lot of work. Let me say that again, MARRIED TAKE A LOT OF WORK. As women, sometimes we get caught up in the wedding and we sometimes forget that the wedding is for one day and married is for a lifetime.
Trust me there was a time and still is when I tell myself that I cannot do this anymore and I want to walk away but I realized that every bump that I have in my married is a testimony that I can share to a new couple. I tell myself that divorce is not an option for petty stuff that we can work on.
Don’t cross the line of comparing your marriage to someone else’s.
Plus, I had to learn to not compare my married to someone else married. What may work for their married may not work for my married. I am what you call a free spirit. Truthfully, my mind wonders from one project to another. Now my husband, is more of the logical thinker in out marriage. He thinks about a project before he start. If I compared my married to someone else marriage it would not work for us. I believe in getting marriage advice from someone who has been married for a long time. I just don’t cross the line of comparing their marriage to mines.
Another thing I want to point out is to always, always pray for your married. I have learned the power of prayer. My daily prayers is my married. I pray that my married is strong. As a wife I pray that me and my husband are faithful to each other. With my prayers I also pray for grown and unity in my marriage.
What happens within your marriage stays within your marriage.
I am also learning that what happen in my marriage stays within my marriage. I have my parents to thank for that. My mom and dad could have a drag out fight but no one outside the house would ever now it. Watching them be that way has made me that way. I never tell anyone when Marion and I have an argument because to me people feed off of negativity and I do not want anyone to look at marriage as a bad thing. Second, when I tell my business outside of my marriage then that open the door for the enemy to come in and destroy my marriage with other people views instead of me going to the Lord in prayer.
I also never talk negative about my husband. I know my husband has flaws but I also have flaws. So it likes the pot calling the kettle black. I am learning to pray on myself when it comes to things that my husband may say or do that I don’t like instead of me sharing my frustration with other people.
Lastly but never least always, always, always keep Christ in your married. Trust me you want to keep Christ in your married because it will make your married so much better.
There will be some mornings you will ask you self why you married this man and you can tell yourself you did it because this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.