Why Did I Marry This Man?

MarriageCongratulation on your new marriage. You finally turned over in your bed and asked yourself.

“Why did I marry this Man?”

The fantasy that you had about your marriage came crashing down because you just had your first argument.  Its your first year in your marriage and you are questioning if you made the right decision.   Now you are questioning yourself if you married the right man. TRUST me when I tell you have and you are not the long ranger.

What you have to remember is that married take a lot of work

I remember when my husband and I had our first big argument. We was just three months into our marriage and I was already ready to throw in the towel.  I had packed up me and my daughter things and I was moving back in with my parents. Because in my mind I thought that in my first year of married we will never have any arguments and we would have the perfect married like they show on television but I quickly realized that is television and not real life.

Your wedding is for one day married is for a lifetime.

 

What you have to remember is that married take a lot of work. Let me say that again, MARRIED TAKE A LOT OF WORK.  As women, sometimes  we get caught up in the wedding and we sometimes forget that the wedding is for one day and married is for a lifetime.

Trust me there was a time and still is when I tell myself that I cannot do this anymore and I want to walk away but I realized that every bump that I have in my married is a testimony that I can share to a new couple. I tell myself that divorce is not an option for petty stuff that we can work on.

Don’t cross the line of comparing your marriage to someone else’s.

 

Plus, I had to learn to not compare my married to someone else married. What may work for their married may not work for my married. I am what you call a  free spirit. Truthfully, my mind wonders from one project to another. Now my husband,  is more of the logical thinker in out marriage.  He thinks about a project before he start. If I compared my married to someone else marriage it would not work for us.  I believe in getting marriage advice from someone who has been married for a long time. I just don’t cross the line of comparing their marriage to mines.

 

Another thing I want to point out is to always, always pray for your married. I have learned the power of prayer. My daily prayers is my married. I pray that my married is strong. As a wife I pray that me and my husband are faithful to each other.  With my prayers I also pray for grown and unity in my marriage.

 

What happens within your marriage stays within your marriage.

 

I am also learning that what happen in my marriage stays within my marriage. I have my parents to thank for that. My mom and dad could have a drag out fight but no one outside the house would ever now it. Watching them be that way has made me that way. I never tell anyone when Marion and I have an argument because to me people feed off of negativity and I do not want anyone to look at marriage as a bad thing. Second, when I tell my business outside of my marriage then  that open the door for the enemy to come in and destroy my marriage with other people views instead of me going to the Lord in prayer.

I also never talk negative about my husband. I know my husband has flaws but I also have flaws. So it likes the pot calling the kettle black. I am learning to pray on myself when it comes to things that my husband may say or do that I don’t like instead of me sharing my frustration with other people.

Lastly but never least always, always, always keep Christ in your married. Trust me you want to keep Christ in your married because it will make your married so much better.

There will be some mornings you will ask you self why you married this man and you can tell yourself you did it because this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

6 Link Parties Etiquette’s

Link Party Etiquette

 

Guidelines For Link Parties.

 

I love link parties. It is a great way to get exposure to your blog plus it offers you the chance to meet other bloggers and network.  Link parties are a great way to grow your blog.  When posting to a link parties there are some etiquette guidelines everyone should follow.   Here is a list of 6 link parties etiquette everyone should follow.

 

Etiquette #1  Don’t submit duplicate content.

 

Link parties is a great way to showcase your blog. Try to use a different blog post to show off your work.  Pick out your best blog post or a blog post your are trying to get reviews on. Your goal should be to grow your blog. Don’t use the same blog post on every link parties. Mix up  your blog post to give you reader a view of your quality work.

 

Etiquette  #2 Go with the Link Theme

This is a pet peeve of mines. If the party theme is about home DIY don’t post a theme about inspirational moments. That is like wearing shorts in a snow storm.  Follow the link party theme.

 

Etiquette  # 3 Visit other links.

 

Do not be one of those bloggers who use link parties as a drive by post hook up. Visit other links. Read them and comment on other links. Believe it or not they are trying to grow their blog too.

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Link Parties Guidelines

Etiquette  # 4 Link Back To the host.

There are some party host  that ask for a link back  to their blog. There are some link parties host that may not. As a courtesy do it. It take a lot of time and effort to host a party. You can do a link back several ways

  •          The host URL
  •          Put the button link in your post
  •          Put the host button link on your sidebar
  •          Or do as I do and have a Linky Party Page.

It is just polite to give credit where credit is due in helping you gets exposure to your blog.

 

Etiquette # 5 Follow the host(s)

It’s just polite to follow the host. Some host often time make it a requirement to follow the host(s). Follow them on Google+, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter or whatever requirement they have.

 

Etiquette # 6 Thank The Host.

Always thank the host for hosting the party. It take a lot of work to host a party and giving a quick comment of thanks is much appreciated.

 

Hopefully this link parties etiquette can help you with the next link party you go to. If you want to know how to increase your blog traffic check out Sincerely Jean to get more information.

 

Thanks so much for reading.

 

Shandra

 

 

5 Ways To Save Money Without Coupons

 

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Coupon-ing has become the biggest rage in how to save money. People are buying name brand product and saving money pennies on the dollar. If you are not like me then you are not a die hard coupon-er but you liking saving. Today I am going to give you 5 ways you can save money and not use one coupon.

1) Discount Grocery stores.

The grocery bill in my home is one of my biggest expense. To help save some money I shop at discount grocery or smaller big box stores. My hometown have an ALDI, Sav-A-Lot, Shopper Value and a Food Depot. I buy all of my poultry, ground turkey, produce, snacks and etc. from these discount grocery stores. Only time I shop at the big box stores such as Kroger, Walmart or Publix is when the smaller stores do not have what I need. For example my kids love the variety pack on chips. At Walmart and Kroger the price can range from $5.99 to $6.99. I can get some variety pack of chips at ALDI or Sav-A-Lot for about $3.99. The chips are not name brand chips and it is the store generic brand but they taste just as good.

2) Liquidation/Discount stores.

I love shopping at discount and liquidation stores. One of my favorite stores is called Roses. At Roses I have bought name brand clothes for half the price. If you have a Roses or an other liquidation store in your are you will be surprise at somethings you will find. At Roses I have bought Old Navy, The Children Place, The Gap and even JC Penny clothes. Trust me you want to go to these type of stores you will be amazed at how much money you can save.

3) Goodwill

Goodwill and thrift stores is another great place to save money. I know there are some people who do not like second hand stores. At my Goodwill they have brand new clothes that comes from my local Walmart and Target with the tags still on them.

4) Cash back sites.

Cash back sites have been one of my favorite ways to earn extra money. With a rebate program it will give you cash back for shopping. I do a lot of my kids school shopping on line because they have a good sale or a good clearance discount. When I do shop online I shop through EBATES. With EBATES I get cash back when I shop. I use that extra money toward Christmas, Summer Vacations and Family OUTING. Let me give a DISCLAIMER. YOU WILL NOT MAKE A SIX FIGURE SALARY WILL REBATES AND CASH BACK SITES.There are some sites and blogger that claim that you can make six figures for shopping for a small fee. It you come across that then RUN AWAY. Most sites offer a small percentage but not enough for you to make a living off of it.

 

5) Clearance and Off Season Items.

I do a lot of my school and holiday shopping off season. The reason why I do this is because some of the product are reduce by 50 to sometime 90 percent.  Shopping this way has allowed me to save a lot of money. Plus it help me to avoid some of the holiday rush. For example, my daughter school has just started. Every year we get a school supply. What I do is I buy the school supplies that she need for her current grade. Then I wait until stores start marking down their school supplies and I buy her school supplies for next year school.

 

I hope my tips will help you to save a little cash without couponing.

 

Thanks For Stopping By

Shandra